STILL SEARCHING FOR A JOB?

 

 

I’ve been looking for a job for the longest time ever without success. In honesty, I feel like bad karma has conjured something sinister against me. Here is a typical jobless story, whenever I apply for a job I don’t get a reply; and when I do it is a rejection. Conversely, the couple of times I have succeeded to get to the interview room, the results have been somewhat confounding. Some interviews have panned out really well, only to be told that “You are overqualified, under qualified or that we will call you later……. Do me a favour, if you see Mr later please call me.

Inferiority complex has further played a trick on me as some employers see me as potential threat to their job security. But how do I deal with all this? Every day I ask myself, is all this suffering worth it? Do I give up my job search or not?  I conclude by saying tomorrow I’ll give up. But damn, my actions have betrayed me again. I therefore realize that I refused to give up on getting or creating a Job long before I knew it. I believe God knew that. That’s why I haven’t given up. He has been with me through hell and that’s how I know he will get me to heaven.

When I am down I hold on to God and encouraging quotes that seem to soothe my bursting bubbles. There is this one specific quote that always encourages me. It’s from a Rabbi who once said that “Man can take you out of poverty and into riches, but God will give you the mind to get yourself out poverty and into riches”. I therefore beg to settle on the latter. Because I know that it is through problems like this ones I am going through that I will gain the capacity to be where God wants me.

Thus, I must survive all the problems that life throws at me, because success is not lack of problems, but the sheer capacity to get through and handle diverse problems. Meaning, the more successful you are the more qualified you are to handle more problems. Going by this premise I know that my success will surely not solve all the problems that this world has, and won’t be further welcomed by all. But what I assure you is that my success will create both success and problems for others to ride on. I therefore must choose carefully what to succeed in, as not every success story creates good problems. Some create bad ones that are self-centred and not altruistic in nature; others create problems that are allied to opportunities.

Placing God into the picture, you will concur with me that God planted us in problems for a reason; He planted us as seeds; some to germinate but die before maturity, while others to die before germinating. But surely, most seeds were planted to die, germinate and overcome most problems; to create lucid conditions that will harness creativity and bring transformative change. I believe we are that seed. We are the catalysts for creation of more industries which equates to more jobs. Remember, good seeds create altruistic success and good problems for others to ride on, while bad seeds create self-centred success and retrogressive problems that hurt people. So, which success story do you choose to be?

Choose to Push Beyond Circumstance

In life, the hardest path is chosen by few individuals who are no God, but receive godlike status once successful. The easy path on the other side is always open and flooded with people of great potential and drive for success, but least aware of the power and resources they have to succeed. Those who walk by the hard path do so not merely because of special ability or status, but because of the will to work towards the future they see: Therefore, regardless of the path you are in, you can still achieve your goals and ambitions. Read this short but true story.

For months, he sat by the computer, tapping his fingers to the new tune of his book “Pushing to the front”. After twelve months, he couldn’t believe it when he finally held his eight hundred page book in his hand; now as an author, ready for the readers. Though in awe, he couldn’t hide the fact that he was tired from the sleepless nights of writing. So, he decided to sit down and unwind at a nearby Cafeteria. Little did he know of what was about to happen.

While relaxing at his cafe, his house caught fire and his 800 page book among other valuable belongings got burnt down. Staring at disappointment, he decided to push on ; and gathered his will to write the book afresh. He rewrote the book for one year and tried to publish it; he was unsuccessful.

Consequently, he decided to proceed to Chicago in search of a new job opportunity. Fortunately,the goddess of luck was with him as he successfully got an office job. During this period with the company, he shared with one of his colleague on his long term struggle to  publish his book. Luck was on his side as his friend knew a publisher who could publish the book. He contacted the publisher and eventually the book got published. To Orison Swett Marden’s surprise, it became a best seller.

Therefore as a human beings, we can achieve a lot in the face of disappointment. We also must be strong enough to admit our limitations and that is why it is worthy to note and understand Albert Einstein’s quote that says “A Man Can Do What He wants, but not what He Wants”.

Rules Politicians Use To Gain, Use and Maintain Power?

Present-day politics in Kenya, Africa and across the world has really transformed over the past decade. Gone are the yesteryear’s of repression where politics was a pre-madonna competition pitting a lead political protagonist who would conjure a signature song for others to follow at will, or by compulsion.

Politics at current, is a showdown of political plutocrats(in majority)working in tandem to create a false reality of division where each politician seeks to be perceived to protect the rights of citizens, and to stand against each others insidious agendas; though the contrary seems truthful.

A Complex game it may be to fathom, but what is most important for you to know is what rules our political leaders use to gain and maintain the power to looting public coffers.

Two books, Niccolo Machiavelli “the Prince” and 1971 Saul Alinsky’s“Rules of Radicals “outline these rules and their significance in successful politics. Here are some of the rules they follow:

Ascension to Power Is either Through Nobility or Favor of the People

At the fore, Nobles represent a group of people who are of a high social class and position, thus well networked and influential. Power via Nobility is therefore gained when a group of nobles based on merits and demerits, settle on a certain noble leader to lead the citizens. In most cases, this kind of leadership is difficult to maintain as the noble leader is seen more of an equal among his fellow nobles than his real authority exudes.

Now, if resistance from the populace ensues due to the noble’s choice of a leader, the elite usually opt for the candidate that is most popular among the populace. The chosen candidate will thus be suctioned into the class of nobles and offered unlimited protection, as long as he satisfies the appetite of the nobles. This is actually one of the main reasons why we elect good leaders into power and once they get there, they shrink into repulsive tyrant leaders; and the cycle of goes on and on.

In contrast, one who attains leadership through favor (popular vote) has more people under his obedience than against him. The only challenge here is that the chosen leader must juggle between satisfying the desires of the nobles and his electives. Harming common people at times in the pursuit of satisfying the nobles, and vice versa is therefore a necessity to survival.

Don’t Deal With Corruption, Its Expensive, Deal With Perceptions

An economic juggernaut it may be in world governments, but corruption unfortunately is rarely dealt with by our political leaders and judiciary. This is not because of inability, but because of its expensive nature as shared by Niccolo Machiavelli “The Prince” and Stephen Levite and Stephen Dubner “Think like a Freak” book premise.

Levite and Dubner say that the main reason many countries still solicit for food aid is not because of food scarcity, but because corruption has stifled resources meant to bolster food security and development in the under-resourced areas.Resources have therefore been concentrated on certain parts of a country based on political merit, rather than determined on the bona fide needs of the populace.

Corruption is secondly colossal in expense,as going for its culprits translates to going up against powerful political moguls than self, who are not handful to say the least. The result of facing up to these political tycoons is a reduced chance of maintaining position power in greener pastures, as you will ultimately gain more noble enemies who therefore see you as an impediment to the profit making business of corruption.

Niccolo Machiavelli secondly details in“The Prince”, that most of our leaders unconcern with corruption and conspiracies mushrooms from the knowledge that their electives will root for them as long as they can successfully brand themselves as unblemished, and having no utter control over corruption racks, which actually sums to resolve nothing.

Don’t be Generous, Being a Miser is Better

Firstly, a miser is a person who loves money,but rarely like spending it. That said, it is common knowledge worldwide to find most political leaders and plutocrats to be misers. Being a miser is a choice made by politicians, not because they don’t care about you as a citizen, but it is a precept to survive in politics; there are no two ways about it. This is how it works.

When you are a miser leader, you resultant spend less, if any, of your own money helping your electives. This places you in a position of power to cushion self and accumulate wealth and money over a definite period of time. Through these, you can latter on afford to be generous at least once in a while, thereby maintaining you power and significantly, the goodwill of your electives. You monetary capacity and thus political machinery to run for re-election.

Inversely, if you decide to be a generous leader as most people would opt for, you will end up spending all your money helping your citizens and in the process, become poor. And as you know poor people are despised, even by their friends and relatives. At this state, you will neither have capacity, nor machinery to gain or retain power of your elective post.

Ethics Is Ambiguous and Must Be Used As Such

In the book Rules of Radicals” by Saul Alinsky,About politicians determine what is ethical not on predominant rules and regulations governing a country, but by:

1. His or her interest in the issue at hand
2. Distance from the issue/conflict or scene
3. Political position at the moment
4. Nature of Conflict.For instance, In times of total war or severe conflict, ethics has no determinant as the end justifies the means.

All said and done, there are numerous rules used to gain and maintain political power irrespective of the country you are in. But one thing continually stands out; that we have to change our political mindset not according to what we see or are told by the media, but by distinguishing fact from fiction. One way to do this is to search for political knowledge rather than speak out of hearsay or sheer obliviousness.

DON’T SHUT THE DOOR TO YOUR PROBLEMS

I have problems like you, many of which I can’t seem to solve. Every time I try to solve them they keep reoccurring. It’s kind of like dejavu.For a moment they’ve disappeared, but wait, I can see them again. Look at them as they lay await for meat the cordoned corner of vulnerability, where I’m weak. I can’t wait for them. Let me run away to a far place, where safety is hopeful and trouble is far.

Puff! there appears another problem. Oo..My God! My adrenaline is up again. Damn! I want to run again, but I just can’t seem to do it this time round, for my legs are heavier; I am much older, much wiser. So I decide this time round, instead of running away from my problems, I will run through them as an athlete running to cross the finishing line.

I have now come to  realize that problems are not permanent, nor are they for anyone else but me, for I am their master.They always come to me for they know I will settle them.So come in problems one by one. I will settle you personally. And don’t close the door please for success awaits to walk in.

Today I will not shut the door to problems for I have realized that success is  to comfortably abode in problems.

The Best Value of Being a Coward

Have you ever stopped yourself from doing something you wanted to do because of a combination of fear, procrastination and lack of courage? If you have then you qualify to read this monograph/ article because you have at least been a part- time coward. Before you read on, you should know that I am also a coward, but a selective one per se; the kind of coward who chooses his battles carefully in terms of what to fear and what to fear not.I guess we are more similar than I thought.

Recalling my yesteryear’s of trepidation,I used to be this kind of coward who would wake up every early morning,to go to work in a bag pack full of fear; Fear of job dismissal. Nonetheless,I also was an ambitious lad as in a span of four years,I favorably managed to work for two companies and after all the hard work and achievement got sacked. This was a reckoning moment for me as I found myself standing on the crossroads of shear depression and an inward desire to live on and succeed. I pushed myself to pick on the latter and search for a new job; and fortunately l landed a management job that I really fancied succeeding in.

Having sipped the bitter taste of retrenchment,I said this time round,I will not be dismissed. “The Indispensable employee” is the title I chose for myself as I was going to work so hard to avoid the dismissal axe. Hence,I tried my very best to fulfill my work duties,though with bits and pieces of challenges as you know.In a few months’ time I had relatively mastered the new job requisite but still couldn’t shake off the stifling thoughts of being job dismissal.I dint know it then, but I had become a coward who worked out of fear, and not out of shear passion and ambition.

Therefore,the struggle to recant these thoughts of job anxiety continued the more I worked. Eventually as per the law of attraction, what I feared most now became a belated reality. I got sacked for the third time and this time around,I was sure that I was down and out of work for good.

Something good also happened. I was sacked from a company that wasn’t my own and sucked into a new company that I currently own.It’s an internet service provider company that provides services such as: Domain registration, website hosting services, Google apps services among many others. It’s been in existence since 2005 and doing well on the competitive radar, competing with the likes of Safaricom.

I will tell you as a fact that this is not my personal story, but the life story of a CEO who inspired me on one of my past internship experiences that wasn’t successful.

As I left the internship opportunity in displeasure, the CEO took it upon himself to leave me with this word about himself:

I am a coward………If I wasn’t, I wouldn’t have clung to the three jobs in fear of being dismissed…… Being a coward is what pushed me to the edge till I could run my life the way I do now and operate my current business to the current success that you see”.

Thus, you may cower to many personal and professional challenges but sometimes cowering to fear may just be a step to discovering the man or woman that you really are and were meant to be in society.

Remember in today’s world, cowards live longer to fight their life battles while the brave die before the fight is over. Cowards also live long to retell the stories of foregone heroes. Therefore choose you moments of battle carefully, as the brave know when to cower, and the cowards live on to one day stand brave.

Two ways To Appreciate Opinion During a Conversation

Appreciating the opinion of your friends, family, coworkers, or acquaintances during a conversation is more important than getting a chance to say what you think .It is actually what makes them feel happy, relevant and receptive to what  you communicate. It boosts their self-confidence, self-esteem and self-worth. Unfortunately, most men and women amidst discussions and conversations tend to forget this fact.

What really happens is that as a man or woman, you will tend to find yourself placing too much emphasis on issues that interest and affect you and forget to appreciate the opposing points in the conversation. When you hear a unreceptive opinion you will most likely respond like: Excuse me ?.., No…., I disagree…., I don’t think so…., But I think…, and so on. What you may not know is that by adopting such phrases you sound  unappreciative of other people’s opinions. The full result of this is to see your conversations brimming with tension, misunderstanding ,misinterpretations or ending unsatisfactorily.

Not Appreciating people’s opinions can also affect you personally by negatively impacting your career prospects as people may judge your career intentions unfavorably. As a graduate, job searcher or employed person, it is also a good reminder that your work potential is not measured solemnly by your technical competence, but mostly by your emotional intelligence i.e. how well you respond to, work with and manage people.

The following are therefore two steps you can personally take to first take the sting out of your opinions and seamlessly appreciate divergent ones:

1. Delete the words “But” and “No” from your dictionary, instead use “And” Maybe….
“But” and “No” are negative affirmation in any conversation. I know you have been frequently using them in your conversation but, its consequent results are far more depleting that you may think.

For example, when someone says something that you are totally against, instead of negatively criticizing his opinion and getting into a worthless confrontation you can say:

You may have a point there. And I also think we should……….

That sounds better than saying:

No, I don’t think that will work because……….

The latter statement is bound to not only get you into a sterile confrontation with the people you relate with, but be taken as a personal rejection of the person. It can easily make people start developing a negative perception of your opinions or advice, no matter how good they are. It may also ruins your personal and professional targets as you spend more time defending yourself than getting on with what you need to do.

2. Ask Questions
You can also better manage other peoples opinions by asking questions as there is nothing that people like more than to talk about what they know or what massages their intellectual ability. For instance, when you ask someone a question you are directly telling the person “that you are the most valuable and important person when it comes to this issue. You also approve the person to begin speaking about himself, his experience or expertise. Which man or woman would dare turn down such an opportunity? You tell me

Still on asking questions, the best known communication experts in the world share one thing in common. They are good questioners. Leaders like Barrack Obama, Martin Luther King Junior among others focus their energies more in asking questions that will provide more direction in tackling issues. This makes them leaders and experts in communication as they know how to appreciate and merging divergent opinions into a mutually exclusive goal or message.

In conclusion, Henry Ford once said that ‘if there is any one secret to success…….. it lies in the ability to get the other person’s point of view and see things from that angle as well as from yours.” So next time you think of having a conversation or discussion with someone, don’t forget to appreciate other people’s opinions.

To get more relevant information on how to better communicate and influence people, I recommend you to take time and read: How to Win Friends& influence people By Dale Carnegie and Men are From Mars and Women are From Venus by John Gray

Education: From Money to Wealth

You have probably heard numerous hearsays and facts concerning money and riches. Famous among them is that money is the root of all evil. This is true as its goddess glare and ensnaring taste has left many in the pitiful hands of corruption and slavish behaviors for gratification. In contrary, money has also sewn some into the hall of fame and honor. The latter statement means that that money can be enslaved. George Clason’s book The Richest Man in Babylon” is one book that you should read if you want to know how to make money work for you, irrespective of your financial status and situation.

The book talks of two poverty stricken friends Bansir and Kobbi. Bansir used to be a chariot builder in Babylon, while Kobbi used to be an excellent lyre player. Like you and me, they used to work so hard and excel in their professions, yet their predecessors were richer than them. So they decided to one day ask Arkad (the richest man in Babylon) why they are not as wealthy as their predecessors, yet they work equally as hard as they do. Arkad’s response was that, they are in that position because they never sought to know how to earn wealth.

Money therefore has its own strict laws if you want to amerce wealth:

  • First, you must start by faithfully saving at least a tenth of what you earn or get (For your future and family). The earlier you start, the more comfortably you can spend your money in the future.
  • Secondly, find your money profitable employment, where it can multiply as you continue saving
  • Also be cautious of investment hyenas by seeking money advice from wise men (financially successful men, and no others) who understand how money works.
  • Don’t invest your money in business or purposes that you are not familiar with or that have not been approved by skilled individuals of the same industry.
  • Lastly, don’t force your money to grow by accepting the alluring advice of tricksters and schemers who assure you that your money will grow faster than steadily. If you do, the result will reflect in your check book or savings account.

According to Arkad, this is how you and I can also comfortably budget our way to our financial goals and manage debt:

  • 1/10 – save at least this amount from the salary you get, or from what you get if you are a student. This is what you will enjoy ones you are too weak to work, so the earlier you start the better for you.
  • 2/10 – for this portion, allocate it to paying debts and divide among those who you value most. When you don’t have debt then, you can shift this amount to your savings.
  • 7/10 – use this portion of your earnings to budget for food shelter clothing, entertainment among other necessities (including saving for building your dream house, business etc.

The good thing about using the  Arkad’s formula is that it not only viable for students or employees, but that you can adjust the fractions of the budget, depending on your priorities. If you are a Christian, you can start by deducting ten percent from your salary before splitting your spending budget into the above fractions. You can try it and see. Good Day.